The only fix ssg gave me was to go to My document, Dungeons and dragons online, User Preferences, open with note pad.
I end up having to change the port every so often.
The problem was bad, real bad, thinking of alternatives to the game bad.
It is not fun being stuck at home, but it would be worse without DDO! Only rarely does my avatar stop in place and I have to kill the game and relaunch to start going again, but it does still happen and it's extremely annoying.
As I said I unfortunately do not have the full path available, but try looking through the folders in your DDO.
He drops at about the same time he receives the disconnected message.